How posh are you? QUIZ

WITH the Royals in town it’s important to be across the proper etiquette,just in case you get the opportunity to spend time with Prince William and Princess Kate.
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The royals’ schedule is busy, but the couple are likely to mingle with locals at dinners, events, fetes and shows.

So here are some tips if you get a Royal visit.

Take our Quiz as we test your royal etiquette.

You could meet a prince or princess over the next week. Would you know how to greet them? Picture: Getty

You could meet a prince or princess over the next week. Would you know how to greet them? Picture: Getty

Dining – Pudding v Dessert. The final course of a dinner is ‘‘pudding’’ – never ‘‘dessert’’. If you call your lemon posset with spun sugar basket a dessert when dining with the hoity toity, you might as well prepare for a future of dining at all-you- can-eat buffet restaurants where you can help yourself to the dessert buffet for all eternity.

Introductions – Never say ‘‘pleased to meet you’’ when greeting a stranger. Rather, say, ‘‘How do you do?’’ If you don’t know who they are, can you be sure you really are pleased to meet them?

Meeting people – Review your handshake. Try to avoid being a wet fish or a bone crusher. People judge others on the quality of their handshake.

Social occasions – Avoid attending Facebook parties. If you’re invited anywhere by Facebook, don’t go. It won’t be worth it and you’ll probably be served beer in the bottle or be given wine that hasn’t been decanted.

Also, take the Quiz below and see how you rate.

How posh are you?

1. Which of the words below is the upmarket choice for the sweet course on a menu?

Pudding

Dessert

Afters

Sweet

2. When meeting royalty, from where on the body should men bow?

The waist

The neck

The knees

Any of the above

3. When asked at the home of a person of good stature what drink you’d like before dinner, the correct answer is:

Bacardi and coke

A dry sherry

Bucks Fizz

Anything

4. When mixing with the nobility, your attitude to chargers (the larger, decorative plates often found on tables) should be:

‘‘I just can’t buy enough of them’’

‘‘What a waste of money’’

‘‘Only buy them if they’re Royal Crown Derby’’

‘‘I’m hoping to inherit some’’

5. Who is 14th in line to the British throne?

Princess Anne

Prince Andrew

Miss Isla Phillips

Prince George of Cambridge

6. Wimbledon takes place when?

Last two week of June

Middle two weeks of July

First two weeks of July

Last week of June, first week of July

7. Who is patron of Henley?

The reigning monarch

The Duke of Edinburgh

The Prince of Wales

The Duke of Cambridge

8. When royalty attends a civilian funeral, where in the church are they correctly seated?

Front left

Front right

In front of the altar facing the congregation

They sit where they please

9. In old French, ‘‘etiquette’’ meant what?

Finesse

Horse racing

Ticket

Enhancements

10. On a man’s three-buttoned jacket, which button should be fastened?

Top

Middle

Bottom

Top and middle

Answers: 1: Pudding. 2: The neck. 3: A dry sherry. 4: ‘‘What a waste of money.’’ 5: Miss Isla Phillips. 6: Last week of June, first week of July. 7: The reigning monarch. 8: Front left. 9: Ticket. 10: Middle.

Great-grandmother delivers grandson

When young Mavis Gaff-Smith started her nursing career in 1964, she never expected she would deliver her great-grandson at Wagga Base Hospital 50 years later.
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Wagga Base Hospital midwife Mavis Gaff-Smith (centre) delivered her great-grandson Hamish Giovannelli on April 15. Mavis also delivered Hamish’s mother – her granddaughter – Hannah Roberts (left) 22 years ago. Hannah, Mavis and Hamish are pictured with Mary-Jo Cutler, Mavis’s daughter and Hannah’s mother. Picture: Les Smith

On April 15, this rare event happened when Ms Gaff-Smith delivered Hamish, son of her granddaughter Hannah.

22 years earlier, Ms Gaff-Smith delivered Hannah.

Describing the moment as extremely special, Ms Gaff-Smith said despite working in midwifery for so many years she still found birth amazing.

“From day one Hannah wanted me to deliver her baby,” Ms Gaff-Smith said.

As she delivered the baby, Ms Gaff-Smith’s daughter and mother to Hannah, Mary-Jo Cutler, placed her hands on top of her mothers.

“I guided her hands, and we delivered it together,” Ms Gaff-Smith said.

“To be able to deliver both my grandchild and great-grandchild is such a rarity.”

The committed midwife is a well known-face at the Wagga Base Hospital, for both the longevity of her career and her writing projects.

Authoring a number of books about her experiences in midwifery, her latest book is hot off the press, ready to be released on May 5.

This latest book, Midwifery at Crow City, is a collection of experiences and anecdotes from over the years.

Ms Gaff-Smith said fellow midwives are constantly handing her pieces of paper with funny stories.

“There are lots of bloopers,” Ms Gaff-Smith said.

“Once a woman came and asked for her doctor and said ‘I’m here to be seduced’, instead of induced,” she said.

Hannah said while she was initially she was embarrassed about her grandmother being so intimately involved in the birth of her son, now she could not imagine it any other way.

“She knows me and my pain receptors, so she knew what to say and what was best for me,” she said.

When asked if she would invite her grandmother to deliver any future children, Ms Roberts said she would.

For new grand-mother, Ms Cutler, the experience was overwhelmingly positive.

“It was the nicest possible experience, having my mum in there. She was so supportive and it was so intimate,” Ms Cutler said.

As Ms Cutler, Hannah and Ms Gaff-Smith gathered together holding Hamish, it was clear that having four generations together had made the moment extra special they would always treasure.

Greens tackle links between politics and business with new rules for party officials

Greens national deputy convener Ben Spies-Butcher says office bearers’ connections should be declared. Photo: Fiona MorrisNational office holders for the Greens will be forced to declare potential conflicts of interest as the party moves to demand greater transparency from senior officials.
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Days after the dramatic resignation of NSW Premier Barry O’Farrell over a $3000 bottle of wine, the party has stepped up its attack on the relationship between major parties and big business.

The new rules, which will be similar to those that apply to MPs, will demand Greens office bearers, including national conveners, secretaries and treasurers, declare personal and pecuniary interests that could influence their decision making.

The move comes amid calls from Greens senators for the Federal Parliament to crack down on “influence peddling” in Australian politics.

The Greens are pressuring the Liberal and Labor parties to consider legislation for a national equivalent of NSW’s Independent Commission Against Corruption, and a bill for a national integrity commissioner is before the Federal Parliament.

Writing for The Guardian this week, Greens senator Lee Rhiannon said “at the federal level, very little has been done to combat influence-peddling in politics.”

“Lobbyists are barely regulated, spending on political advertising is unlimited and both the government and opposition have opposed attempts to establish a national lobbyists’ watchdog.”

“Although parties are required to declare donations, there are few restrictions on who they can take money from.”

Greens national deputy convener Ben Spies-Butcher said the party was mandating tougher standards for office bearers after watching the “murky relationship between business, party officials and political influence” unfold in NSW’s Independent Commission Against Corruption.

“There is not a problem with office bearers having backgrounds that connect them to particular interests but for political integrity to be maintained, those connections should be declared,” he said.

“Just as parliamentarians must declare their own pecuniary and personal interests so any potential influence on their decision making is clear, so should party office bearers.”

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Tom Meagher opens up about violence against women and the trauma of confronting Jill’s killer

Read Tom Meagher’s essayLocals to take stand over Sunshine killingFunding call to stop family violenceMother’s stabbing death: accused faces court
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Jill Meagher’s widowed husband has broken his silence to support abused women, warning against “ingrained sexism” and the “monster myth” around men who commit appalling crimes.

Mr Meagher, in a powerful essay for the White Ribbon Campaign, recalled how hearing his wife’s killer, Adrian Bayley, speak for the first time clarified his views on men who perpetrate violence against women.

Mr Meagher writes of a courtroom confrontation with his wife’s killer. He recalls sitting with a detective and friends during a brief appearance by the rapist murderer when the man began speaking in response to the judge.

While the reply was short, Mr Meagher says the experience was disturbing.

“I froze because I’d been socialised to believe that men who rape are jabbering madmen,” he writes in the  website blog post.

“It was chilling. I had formed an image that this man was not human, that he existed as a singular force of pure evil who somehow emerged from the ether.”

Mr Meagher has turned that perspective into support for the White Ribbon Campaign in his native Ireland, about one-and-a-half years since his wife was killed.

The 29-year-old Jill had been walking a short distance home from a Brunswick bar in Melbourne when she was raped, murdered and dumped out of town.

The brutal crime in September 2012 drew widespread community outrage, prompted a peace march of 30,0000 people, and led to major reforms in the justice system.

Mr Meagher says he’s been overwhelmed with messages from thousands of women who have been abused.

He says he realised he needed to finally take a stand and highlight the causes of such violence, that the random rape and murder that claimed Ms Meagher’s life can’t be treated in isolation because it feeds into a “monster myth” of men who abuse women.

“The more I felt the incredible support from the community, the more difficult it was to ignore the silent majority whose tormentors are not monsters lurking on busy streets, but their friends, acquaintances, husbands, lovers, brothers and fathers,” he writes.

“We cannot separate these cases from one another because doing so allows us to ignore the fact that all these crimes have exactly the same cause – violent men, and the silence of non-violent men.”

He says it’s only when good men take a stand that the abusive cycle will end.

It took more than a year before he stopped dreaming of hurting his wife’s killer, he writes, and realised there was a better way.

”Wouldn’t it be more beneficial for Jill’s memory, and other women affected by violence, to focus on the problems that surround our attitudes, our legal system, our silence rather than focusing on what manner we would like to torture and murder this individual?” he writes.

He also writes of how he had been avoiding the terrifying concept that violent men are socialised by ”ingrained sexism” and heard too many stories of sexual abuse from victims who felt it was ”pointless” to report it.

”If a husband batters his wife, we often unthinkingly put it down to socio-economic factors or alcohol and drugs rather than how men and boys are taught and socialised to be men and view women,” he writes.

Domestic Violence Victoria CEO Fiona McCormack praised Mr Meagher for his comments.

”This is the kind of leadership we need from men,” she said.

”It’s exactly what we need to reduce rates of violence against women. It’s about taking a stand and saying no more.”

Bayley was sentenced to life in prison last year, with no chance of parole for 35 years.

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Surfers Paradise Red Rooster site to become high-rise

Marketing agent Deborah Provost and Peter Bell of Brookfield Multiplex. Photo: Remco JansenThe first residential high-rise to be built on the Gold Coast in two years will replace an old Red Rooster restaurant at Surfers Paradise.
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Singapore developer Ho Bee Land this week announced it had contracted construction company Brookfield Multiplex to build the $120 million, 41-storey tower.

The site, on the corner of Main Beach Parade and Surfers Paradise Boulevard, was previously home to a Red Rooster franchise that was a feature on the Gold Coast 600 street circuit.

The as-yet-unnamed building will feature a unique leaf-shaped design, incorporating 223 residential units, roof-top garden, gym and ground-floor retail space.

Earthworks have already begun on the high-rise, with construction due to finish in late 2015.

The construction is expected to generate 500 jobs for the recovering Gold Coast property sector, Brookfield Multiplex regional managing director Rod McDonald said.

“Queensland’s residential market is gaining pace and it’s fantastic to be back on the Gold Coast and delivering this project which will see cranes returned to the Surfers Paradise skyline for the first time in two years,” he said.

‘‘Ho Bee Land’s unique building will revitalise the Gold Coast’s residential property market by providing new, high-quality apartments that meet the highest standards of sustainability and design.’’

Brookfield Multiplex has constructed some of the Gold Coast’s most significant developments of recent years, including the Hilton Surfers Paradise, the Wave at Broadbeach, the Gold Coast Convention and Exhibition Centre and Pivotal Point Tower at Southport.

Already on the company’s workbook are the new state government headquarters in Brisbane’s CBD at 1 William Street and the $325 million Indooroopilly Shopping Centre redevelopment.